How to behave at a swingers party? what’s a swingers party etiquette?
The last few years has seen a huge increase in the number of swingers parties in Birmingham. A lot of newbies to the swingers scene are curious about checking out the swinging scene, but are unsure of the party etiquete that applies in different swinging situations. This page sets out some of the basic rules when attending a swingers club in the UK.
First, before anything, you need to have the talk with your partner. You’re both curious about swinging, but you may feel somewhat uneasy about seeing your partner with someone else. You might be happy watching them have sex with someone else, but not in a separate room. Maybe same room same partner sex? Girl on girl sex but no swap?
All these questions need to be discussed before hand to avoid embarrassment or a fight on the night. Both of you may be more comfortable after talking to other couples and learning how they handled their first “swinging” session
When you get to the party or swingers club, you are there to have fun and swing with other couples. Once you have become familiar with the surroundings and staff members or host/hostess, try to become as at ease as you would be at any other social gathering. Introduce yourselves to other couples, or ask the hostess to introduce you. You’ll find them eager to welcome you and to help you blend into their circle of sincere camaraderie.
While you are advised to be friendly and outgoing, don’t be “pushy”. Many couples who are new to “swinging” may be intimidated, so approach slowly. Freshly showered, perfumed, and neatly dressed people make more contacts. Don’t let your personal physical idiosyncrasies stop you from having a good time.
It is important to remember that PERSONAL CHOICE is the right of every individual and to “respect that right” is only common courtesy. Learn how to accept “no thank you” graciously. Your approach — which should be the same as it would be at any social setting — is a key factor to your acceptance as a desirable partner/friend.
There are different types of swinging, and it is important that you and your partner decide, in advance, which swinging scenarios are preferable to you. Some couples prefer to be alone, while others prefer to be with other couples. Establish your own ground rules, but please decide on them BEFORE you start “swinging”.